Thursday, December 22, 2011

Quick lesson

Joy StClaire
"Rape culture is 1 in 6 women being sexually assaulted in their lifetimes. Rape culture is not even talking about the reality that many women are sexually assaulted multiple times in their lives. Rape culture is the way in which the constant threat of sexual assault affects women's daily movements. Rape culture is telling girls and women to be careful about what you wear, how you wear it, how you carry yourself, where you walk, when you walk there, with whom you walk, whom you trust, what you do, where you do it, with whom you do it, what you drink, how much you drink, whether you make eye contact, if you're alone, if you're with a stranger, if you're in a group, if you're in a group of strangers, if it's dark, if the area is unfamiliar, if you're carrying something, how you carry it, what kind of shoes you're wearing in case you have to run, what kind of purse you carry, what jewelry you wear, what time it is, what street it is, what environment it is, how many people you sleep with, what kind of people you sleep with, who your friends are, to whom you give your number, who's around when the delivery guy comes, to get an apartment where you can see who's at the door before they can see you, to check before you open the door to the delivery guy, to own a dog or a dog-sound-making machine, to get a roommate, to take self-defense, to always be alert always pay attention always watch your back always be aware of your surroundings and never let your guard down for a moment lest you be sexually assaulted and if you are and didn't follow all the rules it's your fault." -- Melissa McEwan: Rape Culture 101

Whenever I find myself getting into a feminist discussion (read: debate with some dude), it always seems to eventually lead to me tossing the above linked lesson out to said dude (and it's always a dude) who insists that feminists want to create a female-dominated society and they're rabid and everything is equal already (I kid you not).


  1. That is a great quote to have on hand. My husband saw something alluding to to this and he asked about it and understood, but I don't think he ever thought of it that way. I hope more people will open their eyes to the way we're teaching women to prepare and to take the blame. Thanks :)

  2. Meant "alluding to this" not "to to". Yikes.